My best friend is vegan and it's really just not a problem. She just eats the veggie content of the main meal if I'm cooking for a few people. I always make hummus for her and have lots of crudités. She usually brings her own pud to go with whatever fruit I have. It used to panic me whenever she came round or when we went to restaurants but I'm used to it now. If it's just the two of us then I cook something special for her and we both eat it. She says she doesn't care as long as she's always invited and doesn't go home hungry. ) I think lots of people don't invite her when they used to or otherwise might.
It depends how extreme they are I suppose. I really couldn't be bothered with checking every label on what I was using for minute traces of whatever. Some vegans I've listened to being interviewed are not happy with all sorts of things commonplace apart from food, such as furniture, clothing etc. Five pound notes?
I've made a decision - the veggies are getting a root vegetable crumble. The veg are combined with a sightly cheesy sauce and the topping has seeds and nuts in it. The rest of us are having lamb shanks (done in the slow cooker) with mash and green veg all round.
The pork which had slow cooked in what I found out was some sort of BBQ rub rather than sauce, was falling apart, so ideal for "pulling". It went into tortilla wraps with salad leaves and spring onion pieces, and the popular view was "we're having this again". Next time I suggested we also use a BBQ sauce to put over the meat when serving. Usually it's dangerous suggesting things about Mrs M's cooking as she takes it to mean we're not satisfied, but I got away with it. Oh and we didn't bother with the spuds as the wraps were more than ample.